These are attributes of a good man that I doubt any woman will deny.

Unlike men, women are not driven by looks, per se. So, before you go there, a man who looks like Idris Elba (or Brad Pitt, if you choose) will not be on the shortlist of things that every woman wants in a man. The heart of a woman is deeper than the ocean, so while we do not mind a man that is easy on the eyes, it is not the first thing a real woman looks for. On to the list…

#1 Confidence

Confidence, of course, is attractive and looks good on anyone whether male or female. But the real reason women need a confident man is so she will not have to worry about him being jealous (of her, her success, or her relationships with other people). The confident man does not waste his time on being abusive or neglectful to the woman in his life but instead ensures her security of the relationship.

#2 Dependable

There are few things that frustrate a woman as quickly as a man with which she cannot depend. This is not so much about provision as it is about a man doing what he said he would do. Some­times it is as simple as calling or arriving when he said he would. If he cannot commit to small matters, it is difficult for trust to build; therefore, true intimacy is nigh impossible. A dependable man knows the impor­tance of keeping his word, so he has no problem admitting when he cannot keep a promise he made, instead of lying or doing the typical disappearing act. If he is dependable, he will not shirk his responsibilities.

#3 Respectful/Respected

Every woman who has been out to dinner with a man who was disrespect­ful to a server or valet finds it to be an unappealing trait. And for the woman with even an ounce of integrity, it is a real turn-off. Having respect for people, in general, makes an average guy look like an Adonis in the eyes of a wise woman. Just as spending time with a man who is respected by the people he knows, and even the strangers that he meets, is better than a man with a ginormous bank account.

#4 Spiritual

The man who truly appeals to women knows that there is a Supreme Being. In order to have any measure of wisdom, this is a must. He may be a brilliant Rhode Scholar, but lacking a spiritual connection shines a glaring light on his ignorance and arrogance. Any woman worth her salt will count the absence of a deity in her man’s life as a deal-breaker.

#5 Mature

This is simple – a grown woman needs a grown man. Not only must he have the basics like a job and able to take care of himself, but he should also have goals. These goals should not only be for him, but for their future as a couple. A woman that takes care of her busi­ness will have little to no use for a man who does not take care of his. If she has to be concerned with him not focusing on adult issues, it will com­plicate life for her; therefore, focusing on a relationship with him will become less and less appealing to her.

#6 Compassion

Does he care about others? Does he care how he treats others? Does he care how others are treated in society and in general? If he doesn’t, he has to go. The man that feels compassion for fellow human beings will without a doubt take great care of his woman, her heart, their relationship, and all those who are important to her.

Again, there are so many things that could be added to this list but these six are must-haves. The attributes have nothing to do with money, looks, or any other super­ficial thing but instead speak to the makings of love, peace of mind, and a successful, life-long relationship.

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